Three Common Areas Where Couples Often Disagree

While all relationships are different and come with their unique strengths and weaknesses, there are common themes that routinely show up when identifying issues that couples are not aligned on: Money, Parenting, and Intimacy.

1. Money: Finances are one of the most frequently disagreed upon aspects for couples. There is no one size fits all approach to how couples should manage their finances. The best approach is to recognize and be upfront about each individuals strengths and weaknesses in this area, and then create a system that balances these together.

2. Parenting: So many factors contribute to our own individual views on how to parent, chiefly among them is the influence of how we were parented. When two individuals who grew up in two different parenting styles, conflict and undermining each other’s parenting work can often occur.

3. Intimacy: Men and women often have very different views, feelings, and desires about intimacy and the types of intimacy they would like to engage in, such as more physical or emotional. This particular topic can often be harder for couples to discuss then money or parenting disagreements, often leading to not knowing and understanding each other’s intimate wants and needs. 

Working with a professional marriage counselor can provide helpful support in a supportive, safe environment that allows couples to address these issues in a more productive way than the typical arguments and disagreements that occur at home. If you feel you or your spouse could benefit from this type of counseling, please reach out to initiate a service that could greatly improve your overall marriage.